The Truth About Self Love

When you hear the words ‘Self Love’ what is the first thing that pops in your mind?

You’ll probably picture yourself sitting in the balcony enjoying a hot cup of tea while reading your favorite book, watching a beautiful sunset, perhaps running a nice warm bath, or maybe cooking your favorite meal. Because that’s exactly how the internet has portrayed self-love, But that is just the pretty and easy side of it, the side that people want to show the world.

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The truth is that many people are unhappy with who they are, they tend to be hard on themselves. For example, they judge the way they look or the way they behave and so they constantly compare themselves to someone else, desperately wishing that they were as good looking or confident as them. But self-love is exactly what it says it is, it means loving yourself for who you really are and seeing your perceived flaws as a strength, an open and honest validation. It means being just as compassionate and empathetic towards yourself, as you are to others. It means understanding that it’s normal to be awkward and nervous when you meet someone new, and it’s perfectly fine to eat that extra slice of cake without worrying about gaining weight as long as it makes you happy. Sometimes it means that you need to stop being hard on yourself for missing someone who hurt you, understanding that it’s fine to just lay in bed and be unproductive once in a while. Most importantly, self-love is being kind to yourself, realizing that it is necessary to just take a break and be alone with your thoughts. Self-love is “a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological, and spiritual growth” (Khoshaba, 2012)

People forget to have compassion for themselves not realizing that they are only humans trying to find personal meaning in life. Self-love is very important for our mental and emotional wellbeing and it’s a big commitment. Studies show that people who have higher self-love are less at risk of developing depression or anxiety. Research also shows that loving oneself makes us feel more optimistic and people who place their self-worth on internal habits like moral values are successful and less stressed. Constantly criticizing oneself can leave us powerless and distraught while self-love on the other hand empowers, and boosts positivity that we need to get through the day. We need to give ourselves unconditional love, respect, and appreciation and know that one is worthy, valuable, and intrinsically deserving of happiness. You deserve the love you try to give others and as Dr. Seuss famously quoted, “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”

Contributed by Glynisann Santiago Content Writer at Mitti Ke Rang

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